According to the dictionary, Selfish is defined as: concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.
This word is often misused. People tend to use this word to attack/blame others by projecting their inner state onto others.
Selfish had been my huge trigger word for a very long time. I was called selfish because I was an only child. When I grew up, people labeled an only child as selfish, period. I hated it. But I believed it. So I created a strategy to hide the faulty part of me from the world —to not be selfish.
I didn’t know the strategy was negating my potential and creativity. It took joy out of me. And it didn’t work perfectly —I was still called selfish sometimes.
I see and hear many, many people live in a land of “should” which reminds me of how I used to live. Those people are exhausted and not happy.
So here is an invitation to all who hold “should”.
Do what you want to do as long as it’s not intended to hurt or harm others, or it’s illegal. It doesn’t mean it always lands well. And, of course, you are responsible for the consequences. You might need to clean up the mess. So What? That’s proof of living a life.
“Selfish is when you’re not doing what someone else wants you to do.” ~Marcia Brixey
I think she beautifully articulated the word, selfish.
Without being selfish in her definition, what’s the point of having a human experience on this planet to be YOU?
I can see how fascinating to be called selfish these days. That means I trust myself and express my soul.
