Many people I have had a coaching conversation with came to the conversation believing that they made a mistake in the past or what they did wasn’t enough, so they need to improve/correct themselves.
They were surprised when I pointed out that they had done an incredible job in their life. What I did was reflect what I heard. I don’t flatter. I am lovingly straightforward during a coaching conversation.
They usually became silent and didn’t disagree with it because they realized it was true.
Making myself wrong had been my go-to, which I overlooked until I hired a coach. I was told once that I am like a self-loathing scorpion. I attacked myself promptly and efficiently. It was sad to notice that’s what I was doing to myself.
We often believe being hard on ourselves will somehow get us better. We can be so mean to ourselves, believing almost as if it’s necessary.
Can you relate?
It’s a never-ending cycle. Don’t believe your voice, “I will be nice to myself once I achieve __” because you won’t.
You can stop being mean right now without waiting for anything. This works a lot better and more fun for you to create the life you want.
Trust me, I’d tested out and experimented both ways in my life.
